Yes, we got our first wedding invitation of the season today.
Sounds like a nice segue to what I would have likely blogged about anyway.
Yes, wedding season is upon us. The good folks of the Church - dear friends of ours here in this deanery in the Pembroke Diocese - have been doing their thing with 'marriage prep' this winter, telling people all about marital chastity and all that. Are their disciples ready?
A quick observation: less than 1% of married life with be spent in the 'martital act.' How much of your 'discernment' of marriage was focused on it, though? I bet more than 1%. If I can give thetheologyofdad one sentence long version of marriage prep it is this: What about that other 99+ % ? Sure, he/she is beautiful, but is he/she someone you want to spend countless hundreds of thousands of hours with outside of the bedroom?
What am I suggesting by this? Hardly any married person will tell you that if they had it to do over again they would have paid more attention to their spouses sexual attributes and focused less on their moral life, their ability to do hard work, say a kind word, hold their tongue, communicate more effectively, about how much they drink, what kind of a parent they are / will be, etc., etc.
Yes, sex is important in a marriage. In fact, it is more than less than 1% important. Why? Simply because we believe it is. There is no use saying it shouldn't be this way. Augustine tells us that before the Fall it was exactly 1% important.Well, what he actually says is that is was in its right place. Now, of course, it is not; it is disproportionately important. That's fine. We have to deal with that. All that I would like to say to those contemplating marriage is: don't set yourself up for a fall by marrying a body that you love, but a person you don't really know. But alas, young hormones won't listen... ;-)
"Honey, the baby's poopy and I'm totally hung over! You might want to take that dress off first..."
BTW, when I entered 'working woman' into Google's Image Search to look for a competing image with the girl above and ninety percent of the images that appeared were of woman sitting in front of laptop computers. What would an alien life form conclude from that? Would do young women conclude from that?